My Commentary
IS IT TIME TO ACT?   For most, entering into a relationship is a hope and a promise for the future. The anticipation is that you will be happy and respected, supportive and supported in good times and in bad. The imaginings tell you that the good times will be…
Domestic Violence AwarenessThe Economy Made Me Do It?!By Pamela Brewer, MSW, Ph.D., LCSW-C During times of apparent external stress, such as a perceived economic downturn, victims of domestic violence often find themselves at even greater risk.   During these times it is easy for the abused person to talk herself*  into…
But It Happened Such A Long Time AgoThe trauma of years past can still hurt today. This is not the time to start beating up on yourself. This is a time to be proud of your ability to remember and feel. It may seem confusing to still have feelings and…

#Why They Didn't Tell by Pamela Brewer

Monday, September 24, 2018
There are many truths about sexual assault.  All of them unpleasant.  One thing is certain - to blame an alleged victim for not coming forward to report an attempted or completed assault whether it occurred yesterday, today or tomorrow is cruel, unknowing, hurtful, and simply adds to pain and the…
We hear a lot about relationships with others and many times we can lose sight of the quality of the relationship we have with ourselves. There are times when the toxicity of our relationships with others is driven by the toxicity of the relationship with have with ourselves. How many…
It Doesn't Have To Be Physical To Be Abuse! Are you never "good enough"? Are you anxious and worried about what will happen when you and your significant other are together? Apart? Are you the subject of name-calling? Are you the subject of yelling? Are you the subject of screaming?…

Betrayal by Pamela Brewer

Tuesday, September 11, 2018
They were in love. Everything was wonderful. They'd been together for twelve years. They were expecting their second child and they were delighted. And then came the unexpected telephone call. The phone call from the 9-year old boy asking to speak to his "Daddy." The trust, the dreams and the…